8.7.10

looks can be deceiving

Look AT THIS.  It sort of looks like  have my shit together right?  Hair brushed, clothes clean and matching, makeup on, smiling (well forcing it at least). Well, the truth is, I am in a freaking hurricane in my house and head! Last monday when we were all supposed to be recuperating from the holiday (and weddings and whatnot) I received some unexpected house guests that only just left this morning.  They were fine. Kept to themselves mostly. I just had all these ambitious thoughts of getting back on track and stuff after the wedding and for some reason the extra energy of the guests sort of killed it for me (sorry L. If you are reading this. Its just the truth and not completely your fault.  I just couldn't readjust properly and recover. and yes the delicious dinner and comedy last night was wonderful, but I just wasn't expecting you. and I am actually relieved that you are gone so that my life can get back to normal.)  So now I am sitting alone in my house for the next two hours and honestly all I want to do is vegg out in blogland, avoid reentering life, but look at this shit I have to take care of:

Wait before you look at my mess, I just got this comment from someone who is probably super honest and has my guest's and my best interest in mind:


Anonymous said...



um, I hope your unexpected guests don't read your blog. If I were them, I would be offended if I read this. Maybe you were kidding, who knows? But the post comes across as supremely selfish. Sorry.
Dude, I know I do sound totally selfish and bitchy right now, because I am right now.  And my friend and I are tight and speak frankly to each other and I know that if she read this, she would get it since she was here and we talk about these sorts of things. She knew it was unexpected. I don't think she would feel offended and if she did read this, we would have words and work it out before the next time she comes out. So, thanks for your concern. But seriously, its fine. 


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Anonymous said...



Sorry, I didn't intend to attack you, honestly. And I never said you didn't have the right to bitch and moan, sheesh (directed towards the other commenters, not you)! I like your blog quite a bit. I simply meant that even though your friend may be well aware of the stress she/he caused, it might not be the best choice to say it out loud to them right after they leave. That's all! I don't think it's a terrible thing to bite your tongue sometimes, especially with friends & family. And I didn't think it was inappropriate for me to say so given that you have opened up in the past about having a tough time with friendships. Seriously, sorry for causing so much raucous, I should have edited my original comment to make the tone a little more friendly myself. Now that's ironic.
Ya, man, I know.  Sorry I got all pissy. I acted like a defensive child just now due to exhaustion and hormones and built up aggression. My readers are super loyal and protective you know.  I think they are just trying to make me laugh and cheer me up.  Were cool Anon. right?

I mean these are just the messes that pertain to this blog (since trust me, you don't want to see my kitchen or bathroom), and if you compare them to these shots (how I usually like things to be in my closet, and in my etsy room) you will see that this is not OK.  I hope wrinkled dresses come into style since thats all I got right now.  Sorry to moan and complain.  But I hope to finally get my crap cleaned up and get back on the ball here soon.

Shirt: forever 21
skirt: BDG Urban Outfitters
Sandals: MIA Urban Outfitters
Scarf: American Apparel
Purse: vintage thrifted

p.s. And this outfit is almost entirely made from "new" store things.  Which feels weird to me. Further adding to my discomfort.

39 comments:

amanda said...

thanks for showing us your shit because it makes mine seem cool and like the 'in' thing right now. thanks for making me feel good about myself :)
anyway, you look gorgeous and totally make new store stuff look like you. i love your skirt and wish that i had your even tan. not to get too personal and whatever, but do you have tan lines? mine are so bad they're embarrassing.

Alyson said...

I am going to e-mail you pictures of my whole house right now because it will make you feel better, and I only went out of town for one day.

Also, I've been thinking about you a lot lately because I've been trying to go longer without washing my hair. I am absolutely fascinated with the condition its in. I just want to tell everyone I haven't washed my hair since Tuesday morning. My hair is no where near the beautiful thickness of yours and so I'm hatting it today to keep it from looking kind of wet. But its seriously fun.

Take a deep breath, put on some loud fun music and start cleaning! YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

Melissa said...

This is your blog and you can moan and complain all you want to!

It's so frustrating and exhausting just LOOKING at piles of things that need to get done at home...but take itty bitty baby steps. Don't try to get it all done at once. Do little bits at a time, take lots of breaks, be patient and know that it WILL get done. You won't feel like this forever!

And hey - at least YOU look fabulous while doing this! Many of us would kill to look as fantastic as you do! :)

Anonymous said...

um, I hope your unexpected guests don't read your blog. If I were them, I would be offended if I read this. Maybe you were kidding, who knows? But the post comes across as supremely selfish. Sorry.

dear kate said...

Well, the good news is, you do look GREAT! :) i too feel a little funny when over 50% of my outfit is a new store bought look.
katie

emilywilson said...

sometimes things just happen when u only want to lock yourself away, so don't be too hard on yourself :)
on a seperate note to all the crap you look fab in these pics! LOVE the outfit!! xxx

Teresa said...

You haven't seen anything until you've seen my apartment! Don't feel bad. This too shall pass! :)

Cheer up! Focus on the bright side! You look absolutely gorgeous in those photos to feel terrible. ;)

♥ Teresa ♥

tomorrowneverknowsfashion said...

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW SHNOOKUMS!
I hope you get your chance to chillax and take it easy. having company is stressful! (2 L's?)
I totally understand the frustration. my last 2 days of blogging have been nothing but complaining. it feels good to let it out (Merl is my bitching idol, i take strength from her to be a better bitcher)
On the bright side, you look great and those mountains!!! wowser.

Sara Lynn said...

Omg what a complete turd! It is your blog, your space and last time I checked we still had freedom of speech.

You do look lovely, and my room is worse, we are human, and messy.
*hugs*

~Sara

Noelani said...

I appreciate exposing your messes and your true thoughts! It is brave to speak what you really think, even if it is not always what people want to hear. Keep doing your FAB thing and don't worry about the other stuff, it will all fall into place.

Teresa said...

Sara just said "turd". LOL! I love it!!! :D

♥ Teresa ♥

Rach is Ordinarily Urbane said...

Let's be honest, we all feel that way sometimes! No reason to feel bad about a complainer behind the curtain. Forget all about those naysayers! You're fabulous I love reading your posts everyday so vent as you wish :) xo

Anonymous said...

Sorry, I didn't intend to attack you, honestly. And I never said you didn't have the right to bitch and moan, sheesh (directed towards the other commenters, not you)! I like your blog quite a bit. I simply meant that even though your friend may be well aware of the stress she/he caused, it might not be the best choice to say it out loud to them right after they leave. That's all! I don't think it's a terrible thing to bite your tongue sometimes, especially with friends & family. And I didn't think it was inappropriate for me to say so given that you have opened up in the past about having a tough time with friendships. Seriously, sorry for causing so much raucous, I should have edited my original comment to make the tone a little more friendly myself. Now that's ironic.

Anonymous said...

Ahahaha, you should see my closet before thinking you've got it bad :D

Which reminds me, organize closet today..yea.

Sal said...

I can completely relate. We just had PLANNED houseguests depart after 6 days, and I feel like my head has melted off.

Dip-tea said...

When you are under pressure all you need is a hug! :)
So hugs!

Leah (The Domesticated Wife) said...

Hey try not to sweat the STUFF too much. If (God forbid) something happened to your friend I'm sure you'd be happier that you welcomed her into your home and spent time with her than if you had a sparkly clean house. :) Really other people are the best, most interesting things in our lives.

I hope you find some time to de-stress and make your space feel live-able again!

Love your look today! :)

minnja said...

Great post!!!!

http://minnja.blogspot.com/

Lívia said...

YOU ARE A QUEEN! A QUEEN OF THE MIX UP! OMG!
How do you get?? Everything is so beautiful!
There arent the pieces themselves, but the whole. Sets and mixed them together! I wanted you to post six times a day I want to see more and more ideas from you! You're a queen in the mix and match!

Kimberellie said...

You are amazing. This outfit is BEAUTIFUL. And your hair is so steller, wow.

As for the mess: EEEK. I totally understand where you are coming from in regards to the guests.

Though I think the anonymous person may be right. But who knows? I am just finding myself that people don't always tell you when you have offended them (a friend of mine just told me after TEN months that she has been upset with me and I am the one who had to ask!!).

But you are right, some people do and will tell! So you are probably right about your friend (you would know, not someone who knows none of you, right?).

That said, I think we would be great real life friends, because YOU would tell. And we could have spectacular fights and drink red wine afterward. ;-)

Haiku Ambulance said...

My goodness, lady.

What a controversy you have stirred up for yourself! Which is really funny, because you pretty much had no say in the matter in the first place.

I kept reading these tweets about "anonymous" (I had already read the post, but got sidetracked before I could comment) and I thought "L" was the anony... anyway.

I think you obviously know L a bit better than say, I or anony do, but that's not my business anyway.

Plus- I'm still writhing myself about some guests from the 4th who I don't EVEN know. I should have aired my grievances online in fact, because I bet I would have felt better getting it out. I say good for you.

Therapize* the shit out of your blog. Or just post pictures of poop- or dead animals. Or don't post anything because it's yours. And you can do whatever you want. Shit, it's your party. Cry if you want to!

And not to stir up drama- but at least you aren't posting all of your thoughts, opinions, opinions of others even- anonymously. Because then you would just be a coward.

Which you obviously are not.

Also, to echo the chorus: my closet trumps that shit, bitch. It's a living being in fact at this point, I believe. Perhaps an ecosystem? A zeroscape of sorts, seeing as how it doesn't require water to live and grow...

Ah, it's a weird day. I may have stirred up some mystical weirdness with my Uranus dance. Uranus' Box? Pandora's Uranus? Aieee....

*This is not a real word. I made it up.

I hope things get a bit more normal for you. You deserve it. If I could, I would "bibbity bobbity boo" your closet clean.

.Haiku

Swalvs said...

Hey! Ok, this looked a bit too much, apparently she/he doesn't know you enough (it is not really necessary though) or feels like she has to teach you something... Anyways, it's your responsibility and well, words may hurt sometimes, i guess this one hurts you... Well, hope you're better now. I think you look very beautiful though and I know you're an order freak so I can understand the pressure on you! But hey, I saw all the comments and I'm looking at my room at the moment and it looks like mess is "in" at the moment :D Let it go, sleep, rest a little bit, be good to yourself... And, never mind... Please? Love you!

The Daily Fashionista said...

If it makes you feel better, my house is in shambles at the moment too. But mostly due to my own laziness. No house guests to blame it on for me, unfortunately:) Buck up champ! I bet by now, you've already cleaned your house to a sparkle!

reckless daughter said...

I have these mia clogs and your blog is making me want to wear them with more things - oh, and get a tan! lovely photos.

RETRO REVA said...

Sweetie, I wish my piles were that small ;). My guest room is a big heaping pile-o-clothes and shoes Yikes!!!
It is true that if you look at your house, you can tell what's going on inside your head. (I read that somewhere) and believe it's true.
I have very disorganzied thoughts, thus a cluttered house.
Let me tell you about my month so far:
(this may make u feel better ;)
1. busted my knee, E>R> on July 4th
2. Busted my molar in half while recuperating from knee injury, on a cherry pit no less.
Crown: very expensive, no more shopping :(
3. My doc found a lumpy on my liver, surgery in about 2 weeks.
The C word was mentioned. scared.
Still in shock, thus inappropriate blurbing it out :)
This probably isn't the best venue for this, but just trying to say,
it could be worse! ;)
I am a toughie, so it will all be fine. any holisitic strategies u can recommend for such "luck"?
Maybe I need to be "smudged" :)
By the way, your pile-o-clothes has a really great view ;)

casual ambiguity said...

hmmm my bathroom currently looks like that bottom photo heehee oops?

Danielle said...

You poor thing! :( I'd be freaking out if I had a bunch of wrinkled dresses to tend to, also!

And I know you've politely responded to anon's concerns, but I'd like to add that, though they likely have your friends' best interests in mind, it IS your blog and you have the freedom to write whatever you want on it, and that person doesn't know your relationship with your friend, so they should kindly butt out, tbh.

Otherwise, you look adorable, hang in there, and I definitely feel you, I'm in a similar boat, not wanting to get all of my to-do list taken care of either!

Love love,

Danielle

Danielle said...

oh that - and - it was unexpected.

I think anyone would be frustrated if someone just showed up out of nowhere like, "Hey, here's me! Now entertain me!"

TavoLini said...

Hi! I'm a sneaky lurker type who's read your blog regularly for a hot second--you are pretty damn awesome :)

I totally hear you with the company--we host couchsurfers every now and again and though I love it I need to take a day off (or a week) to recover! Also, you inspired me to dig up and start sporting my grandfather's bolos. He wore them every sunday.

Fifth Sparrow said...

Sorry about the crappy day... I completely understand the stress you must be feeling and it's not fun! But, it will pass soon enough!

In the meantime... damn! This might be my favorite outfit of yours! And your hair is looking phenomenal blond! When you'd first mentioned dying it I was definitely not expecting it to look this good (please take that as the compliment that it is!) love it!

Anonymous said...

Dang - you look awesome for having a huricane in your house. I definately don't think I could pull it off half so well. Hey - good for you for verbalizing your frustrations! Things like that are reality.

tess said...

wow, sounds like you've been through a lot. I do agree that sometimes we have to be careful with what we post on our blog, but if you and your friend got it all out in the open already then its totally fine you're expressing your frustration here. Hope things sort out.

Trishna said...

I am not the only one in the world who sometimes feels like that. :) Thanks for sharing :) I feel human now.

Ashley said...

You look so put-together and lovely! I think it's good that you answered anon, personally, I prop would have taken it the wrong way and let it ruin my day. It's so much better to talk it out.

xoxo, Ashley

Annebeth said...

Only advice anyone can give you at a time like this is: just start cleaning up. Little bits at a time, taking breaks now and then. The start is always they hardest, but when you actually start cleaning and organizing you will feel a load fall from your shoulders and your mood will lift accordingly. At least that is what I feel myself when I'm in one of those "damn my house is filthy" moods. Speaking of which, I haven't done the dishes in like 4 days. But I've got it under control. That's what I like to tell myself.
Ha!

You do look amazing. I love love love your golden brown/blond hair, together with your skintone you just look amber/gold all over! stunning, really. And I still love the easy, very slightly boho/exotic appeal of your style.

PS isn't it funny to think that we try and keep ourselves presentable while our house is in shambles? Makes me think that somehow, even though I try to deny it, we DO actually get dressed for other people. We want people to think we got our shit together. Oh well.

6roove said...

o c'mon, it is unworth to speak with someone how love to keep U down :/

----
great skirt and purse!

X
Watching the waves ;)

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Kim said...

awesome outfit! Love the blog, want to swap links?

ru.kurarin said...

i can't say much because interpersonal relationships are after all between the people concerned. i do hope you're feeling better now.

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